With the New Year in full force, I notice a lot of people
talking about their ‘new year’s resolutions.’
Well, I don’t believe in making resolutions, being as by this time
people usually give up on them, but I do believe in bettering yourself every
day. Life is about progress, not
perfection! You should want to better
yourself every day, not pick the end of the year to collect all the things that
are ‘wrong with you’[1]
and write a list for you to abide by for the incoming year. That is setting yourself up for failure, my
friend, and I am not about that. Slow
and steady wins the race.
So, listening to all of my friend’s resolutions, seeing
their lives, and knowing my own, I have put together a list for the
masses. These aren’t New Year’s resolutions;
these are just ways to live a happier life.
This list is things I need to remind myself on a daily basis as well,
but if I can help someone else too, then it is a good day!
1)
Stop being
mean to yourself!
There is no need to continuously point out
all of your flaws and shortcomings.
Everyone has flaws, there are things [be it physical, emotional or
mental] that everyone wants to change about themselves. CHANGE IT. Beating yourself up and harping on it isn’t
going to change it. I know this sounds
like me preaching, but it isn’t. I do
the same thing, but I learned that putting yourself in a negative mental space
will not help anything. It only prolongs
your misery.
2)
Blowing
out somebody else’s candle won’t make yours shine any brighter.
There is always going to be someone else
doing better than you in comparison. STOP
COMPARING. Once again, it does not
do well to harp on the negatives. You
and someone else did not have the same tests in life, so it is unfair to you
[and them] to compare grades.
3)
As long
as you can look yourself in the mirror at the end of the day, you are okay.
Be happy with your decisions, they are YOUR
decisions. Don’t worry about what other
people say or how they react, as long as you are happy with yourself at the end
of the day, then life is good.
4)
Life IS
good…no matter how bad.
Horrible times can’t last forever. As cliché as this sounds [and yes, I am aware
of how cliché this sounds] even the darkest hour only has 60 minutes.
5)
You
cannot please everyone.
You can do everything right and people will
STILL have something negative to say.
Forget those people, don’t let them bring you down. If they won’t matter in a few months, if not
years, from now, they don’t matter.
6)
Only you
can tell you ‘NO’
Don’t let people dictate what you do. This is your life. If you want to go somewhere but someone who
doesn’t like you is there, go anyway.
There is no reason why you should give them the satisfaction of letting
them in your head.
7)
Complaining
is natural
You cannot be happy all the time, that’s a
fact, but you don’t need to beat yourself up about it. I hate the ‘I said I wouldn’t complain as
much’ resolutions. Everyone complains,
it’s part of life. We are both positive
and negative, they are not mutually exclusive, and that is o.k.! Just make sure you
follow the next one. . .
8)
Don’t let
the negative outweigh the positive.
I have trouble with this sometimes. It’s okay to get down and sad sometimes, but
don’t be so far down the rabbit hole where it is unbearable for you and
everyone else around you. You’re allowed
to mope for a little bit, but after your allotted time, pick yourself up, dust
yourself off, have a drink and keep it moving!
So that’s my list, blogfam[2];
Life is far too short to be anything less than unapologetically happy. Be happy with where you are, strive for
better from yourself, don’t let people get you down, always move forward, never
say things you don’t mean, have strength in your convictions and only apologize
when you feel you should. Good luck on your
resolutions, but just try to make each day better J!
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