Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Singing Me Home

I used to be a scene kid when I was younger; I always used to go to concerts and shows[1], knew all the local bands, I was always on ‘the scene.’  However as I got older I went to less shows, less concerts, and before I knew it, the only time I saw a band was if the bar I was going to on the weekend had a cover band on the docket.  Don’t get me wrong, I am a sucker for a good cover band, but I began to forget what it felt to be a part of something bigger; a feeling that only a good live show could give you.

As was mentioned in a previous blog[2], I went to an amazing concert (Brand New) during the summer in which it transcended me to a completely different place.  A serene moment where everything made sense and nothing else mattered but where I was at the moment.  That is the power of good music, it transcends you.  Several weeks ago, on a rainy and otherwise dull Saturday, I went to Jones Beach with a bunch of my friends to see The Gaslight Anthem and Jimmy Eat World.  Yes, THAT Jimmy Eat World.  I am a huge Gaslight fan, and have seen them several times before, but Jimmy Eat World was a band from my youth that I have never had the chance to see live.  Despite our tickets all being for different sections, the rain kept a lot of people away and our group of 5 was able to sit with each other.  The first band, Against Me!, came and went, pumping the arena with an energy that only a punk rock band can bring.  Then, almost immediately after, came Jimmy.
Now I should pause and preface with how, while I was looking forward to the concert in advance, that day I was not feeling good and had a lot of work at home to do which was making me cranky. 
But, the minute Jimmy hit the stage and started singing ‘Sweetness,’ my mood was completely uplifted.  Every note he hit, every word he sang, hit me like a ton of bricks.

There is no better feeling than being in the middle of a concert listening to a band sing all the words you wished you penned, and being in a stadium surrounded by people who just get it.  Something about live music hitting your soul . . . It can absolve all your sins, wash away all your worry, and put all chronic nagging of bad days to bed.  I forgot how seeing a good band live can make you drown in positive energy and make you feel infinite.  How listening to a band live and feeding off the energy of the room can make you feel like you are exactly where you are meant to be at the exact time you are meant to be there, with people who feel the same way.  It always surprises me when I lose myself for a minute, but then I come back to things I thought I outgrew and I find myself again.  There are some events that hit you like a phenomenon, making you rethink your purpose in life, making you realize how utterly small you are in an unforgiving and indifferent universe, and how comforting that feeling is.  Being immersed in live music by a band I love does that for me.  It makes me realize how the world is forever changing in an unapologetic way, and how I should cherish any moment that makes time just stop.  So whenever I feel I am getting lost, I can just turn on a song from my past and relish in the times I’ve lost myself in the moment at concerts.  And for that, I will forever be a free spirit. 




[1] Shows are concerts of non-mainstream (non-famous) musicians

Magic is in the air. . .

For anyone that watches the show New Girl, you will not need the preface, but for those of you that do not, I will oblige…Last week’s episode was about Jessica Day, the show’s protagonist, diving into the world of online dating.  As we all know, and my blog can attest, the world of online dating is a scary place.  However at the end of several uncomfortable and awkward dates, she manages to meet this guy she likes and connects with on a lot of different levels.  But in true Sitcom fashion, the tone of the date changes as she quickly discovers he is not her type. Why is he not her type, you ask? Well it is because he is a magician, who proceeds to ‘woo’ her with magic tricks. The whole premise of the episode was absurd.  Her date was in the middle of a restaurant being embarrassing, trying to untangle rings from each other and pulling rabbits out of hats.  I actually pitied the character of Jessica Day for having a more horrible dating story than I do.

The episode was so unrealistic and embarrassing that of course I had to laugh with my PIC[1] about how awful I feel for that staged yet terribly uncomfortable date.  I then began to tell her about a story from many moons ago (which pretty much everyone has heard before).  You see, 2009 was a big life-changing year for me, for many different reasons, but mainly it holds all of my best and most exciting bar stories.  After my very first breakup, I went to my local watering hole to drown my sorrows, and my good friends Bobo and P came to cheer me up and join in the shenanigans of the evening.  While we started at our original ‘go to’ bar we proceeded to have an impromptu bar crawl and meet some people along the way.  Our first stop was going to another local hotspot to meet one of my friends who ‘had a guy’ she ‘wanted me to meet.’  Fair enough, I thought, what could possibly be wrong with that?  WELL, in true Gabrielle fashion, nothing is ever so simple.  So as Bobo, P and myself go into this bar we are immediately accosted by my very inebriated friend, and her ‘perfect guy’ . . . a Magician.   Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being a magician, certainly 5 years ago when I was just a student, but it is not my cup of tea.  So after throwing up the smoke signals, P and Bobo swoop in and we go on our merry way to continue an amazingly infamous night that can only be summed up in two words . . . Zebra Cakes.  But that is a story for another time.

Now as I am telling my PIC this story, which she has heard from Bobo, P and myself many times before (it’s a crowd pleaser) she was like ‘well what about last summer?’  A story which I COMPLETELY blocked out of my memory.  Last summer my PIC, another friend and myself decided to go a few towns over to watch the fireworks and hangout in some new scenery.  We went to a mildly familiar bar and managed to make some new friends in the outside bar portion.  It was there that we met a man named Alabama, who proceeded to sing a song about my amiga, Clara (and glitter), with his harmonica [the video is still floating around the glory that is Facebook, by the way.]   Also at the bar was an adorable looking ginger, whom for blog references we will call Rodolfo, since his real name was something similarly absurd.  Rodolfo was very nice, came up to our group, hungout was talking to us, polite, normal and sweet; seemed nice enough, right?  Well after I had given him my number, we discovered, as is my luck, that he is not normal, but is, in fact, a Magician! But not only was he a magician, he was also a rapper---which he explained as going to neighborhoods and trying to rap battle people. (Am I too old and out of touch to not believe that that actually happens?)  Again, not judging anyone’s life choices, but in your mid-twenties, I think it’s time to give up the ghost on being the next Eminem.  Also, the early 2000’s are over—even Eminem doesn’t want to be Eminem!

It was after this discovery that Rodlofo 1) joined Alabama in an impromptu concert in which he ‘spit some raps’ (is that how the kids describe it these days?) and Alabama jammed out on his ‘ca (that’s short for Harmonica, right?) and 2) Rodlofo busted out in a COMPLETE choreographed dance of Beyonce’s ‘Single Ladies.’  Now, here is a fact about ME, it is near impossible to get me embarrassed.  If anyone has ever met my dad, we know I am used to some random and awkward tomfoolery, but watching a 6’4” ginger with a giant curly afro start rapping, doing card tricks and then breaking it down to ‘single ladies’ was enough to turn me red and put me off.

I am all for loving the life you live and being completely and unapologetically yourself, but that whole scene was a little too much for me; certainly on a first encounter.  But I cannot blame him too much. . . Clearly I am an inviting (and eccentric) person that I constantly find myself meeting such interesting characters.  However, what I really learned about myself in those stories is that evidently I have a penchant for magicians.  That sad little fact actually fills me with hope.  I mean, who knows, maybe love really is in the air!!  One day I will meet the magician/clown/rapper who sweeps me off my feet and makes me forget about all the lovers lost in the past.  Another fun fact learned from this is whenever I think some RomCom on TV is depicting an unrealistic and awkwardly embarrassing date, my friends will be there to remind me that I definitely have had worse in real life.  So it goes. . . 




[1] PIC- Stands for Partner In Crime (mine happens to be TaraMascara)