Like stated in previous blogs, I am a cynic. I am probably a horrible girl; all the ‘rom
coms,’ ‘princess movies’ and ‘chick flicks’ I’ve watched don’t reassure me that
love will find me, it just reassures me that life is not like the movies! When
all my friends talk about soul mates, serendipity[1],
love at first sight and things being ‘meant to be,’ well I just know that
scenarios like that are completely unlikely.
I do not believe in love at first sight, the jury is still out on soul
mates, and as far as things being ‘meant to be’ and serendipitous, well, I feel
like that is really just an opinion.
Sure, maybe the universe is bringing you to someone, but if BOTH parties
do not see it, then one of you is a creep and the object of your love gets
weirded out and does not want to be near you.
A few weeks ago I went to a concert with my friends in the
city. We were all looking forward to it,
and being musically inclined, we knew to stand in the middle of the floor
instead of going up close. As we were
all standing there waiting for the headliner to begin after the opening act I
noticed someone in the crowd that looked very similar to my college roommate’s
friend. After some gawking I realized it
was not him, but I did find myself in an ‘eye flirtationship[2].’
Shortly after we made googley eyes at each other, the concert started and he preceded
to the front while my friends and I firmly planted ourselves in the best
acoustic area, the middle. Several weeks
later I was futzing around on one of my many social media accounts and stumbled
across him. I remember saying ‘wow this
kid looks familiar, probably can’t be the same person, that is TOO random.’ But I decided to message him and ask if he
was the kid from the concert and how he is; usual pleasantries. I mean, he was a good looking kid, and clearly this was an opportunity, so why not be friendly? The few friends
of mine I shared this ‘ironic’ encounter with (both men and women, by the way)
decided that it was the universe specifically getting us together. As if, for some reason, we were meant to meet and fate was having us
meet again to make a move this time.
Although I do not agree with this at all, who am I to not jump on
an ironic situation; for the main reason that I know I will have a good story to tell later[3].
After messaging back and forth, then taking the conversation
to text, we discovered something . . . He looks like my college roommate’s
friend because his TWIN BROTHER went to my college. Apparently us having so many connections (a
la- 10 degrees of Kevin Bacon) was creepy and our quick flirtationship ceased
and desisted abruptly. You see, even if
the universe does [and I’m not saying
it does] bring two people together; they need to both be open to seeing
that fact. If they are not, then it is
just a missed opportunity and a chance encounter. I was slightly bummed out by this fact; not
for the reason of missing a cosmic connection (insert eye roll here), not even
for the fact of it turning into more, I think I was most disappointed by the
fact that, while I do pride myself as a cynic, I still hold a tiny bit of hope
for things like ‘destiny’ and ‘true love’, and that is not an idea most males my age are open to.
Romance, like chivalry, is a dead art.
Romance, like chivalry, is a dead art.
While there may be no counterpoint for me that also holds
out hope for these naïve notions, it was nice to see that there may be some cosmic pull drawing people
together. I am beginning to learn that,
unlike the movies, destiny and soul mates aren’t always referring to
your love life. My destiny lately is
career oriented, and I love that. As for
soul mates, I am sticking to that being the group of friends I have in my life,
that I know were put there for a big reason.
As far as the ‘love’ aspect of my life, maybe it will happen, maybe it
won’t; I have far bigger things to worry about than pulling up my horoscope and
mapping my days around when it says I will find love. The best part of where my journey is taking
me now, is that I am extremely positive and happy in my everyday life. Live a life so amazing that it will only
attract the best people. That will bring around a serendipitous person.
J
So why did you two having so many connections mean you two could no longer communicate?
ReplyDeleteYou'd have to ask him that...that's the whole point of this blog, not everyone thinks serendipity is nice. Some people just think it's creepy and weird!
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